A Scottish community for parents and family members of transgender young people
The Transparentsees community was started by one family in Glasgow in 2013, and initially used a small meeting room in the Sandyford Gender Clinic. The aim was to build a network of parents and carers who were supporting their young transgender and non binary family members. Since then that network has spread across all areas of Scotland, and our members are supporting their loved ones ranging in age from 3 to 33.
Initially the focus was on face to face groups for adults only, aided by local volunteers in different parts of Scotland. Due to Covid the community shifted to monthly online meet ups, and these have proved very helpful for new families in particular. We are now starting to organise occasional face to face meet up at different venues so we get a chance to meet each other (and our kids and dogs!)
The format of our meetings is simple, welcoming and non judgemental. We give parents, family members and carers a safe space to discuss how they are doing, away from their offspring. This leads to questions that other group members can often answer from their own experience. Topics can range from how to navigate the NHS Gender Clinic to how to obtain supportive education in their local school. There isn't much we haven't talked about, laughed about and cried about. There is absolutely no pressure to talk unless you feel you want to.
We are not counsellors, or experts, but we can offer our own lived experience. We are not on this path alone. There are others who have walked this way before us. We support each other so we can better support our incredibly special children and young people.
It can be overwhelming when your child, regardless of their age, starts their own journey.
We have compiled some resources and websites that may be of help.
Mermaids - https://mermaidsuk.org.uk/parents/
LGBT Youth Scotland - https://www.lgbtyouth.org.uk/
LGBT Health and Wellbing - https://www.lgbthealth.org.uk/
They also offer a ‘livechat’ service from their website during the same hours.
For anyone looking for a counsellor that can afford to pay towards it, this is a good site to find them on - http://rainbowtherapyscotland.org.uk/contact-for-clients/
Scottish Trans Alliance - https://www.scottishtrans.org
Scottish Equality Network - https://www.equality-network.org/
Scottish support group for parents, families, and carers – email for details firstname.lastname@example.org
LEAP Sports runs a family support group with peer physical activity and sports opportunities https://leapsports.org
A few books that been recommended for parents by parents -
Love Lives Here – Amanda Jette Knox
I Promised Not to Tell – Cheryl Evans
Helping Your Transgender Teen, 2nd Edition: A Guide for Parents – Irwin Krieger
What's the T?: The no-nonsense guide to all things trans and/or non-binary for teens - Juno Dawson
Raising the Transgender Child: A Complete Guide for Parents, Families, and Caregivers - Michele Angello
Some Other Helpful Websites
Documents - click link
Some of our members photos along with some inspiring images from inspiring artists.
If you are a parent or family member of a trans kid, and would like to join us please send us your details. We will be in touch with you as soon as we can.